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Some men think that the best way to woman's heart is to compliment her on everything (her appearance, her clothes, her look). Experienced guys see that not every girl would feel grateful to compliments. Some of them would take it for granted, others would feel awkward and only few of them would be really glad. Let's take women's side. "Why is this guy paying compliments?" - she can ask herself. "Perhaps he is not sure of himself, or has nothing to say?" I know that lots of people say compliments to each other. Some of them do it on purpose, others don't but anyway paying compliment to someone you involve a person to a certain kind of relations. One can't say a compliment and receive nothing in reply.
Compliments are helpful when you want a person think good of you. If you notice a small detail in person's appearance it would sound like you're very attentive. Maybe you'll be the first to notice this little feature. But you must remember that compliments should be said frankly and sound naturally. Unnatural ones are easy to detect. They'll put you in stupid situation.
Should you compliment a beautiful woman on her appearance? Of course she will like it and maybe even smile to you, but don't you think that she has heard it hundreds times? Practically all the people surrounding her tell her she is beautiful. It raises her self-esteem, and sometimes it becomes too high. She would feel that you're one more guy in a long queue. It's better to compliment her on other thing, but not on her appearance.
Never stick to the compliment. Once you paid a compliment, don't stand and wait for the person to answer you. You can simply change the topic of your conversation. If a person likes your compliment it will be given back to you soon. Try not to discourage your partner.
Well, most of people can't receive compliments at all. I don't know why but most complimented try to invent excuses to the compliment. You can see it in Luc Besson's film "Vassabi". When a single woman came to a single man for dinner she was surprised that he wore a Versace shirt, as she had never seen him in it. She complimented him on that, and he replied: "simply all my t-shirts are dirty". Isn't it a silly and not to the place excuse?
NEVER excuse for the compliment. Take it, and simply say "Thanks".
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