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Five rules not to be at a loss for words

Do you sometimes lack words when you're talking to someone? Lots of people feel it. Does it happen to you often? We hope that after reading this article you'll never have such a problem. Here are some rules to avoid this situation:

1. First of all you should become a good listener. If you really want to become a good speaker you have to learn to listen. But it doesn't mean that you only have to nod your head and agree to everything. You've got to realize what the person you're talking to wants from you. If you won't listen carefully, the person will understand it right away.
   
   
2. How to start? How do you usually start the dialogue? We hope that you don't just directly say what you need to a person. It is far from being a good tone and looks foolish. It seems like you don't have anything else to say or you don't have enough time (then why are you wasting your partner's time?). Your partner would rather feel awkward. It isn't a good way to begin! Instead, find something in common. Some other topic, which is not related to the purpose of your communication. Concentrate on your target but don't show it verbally. "Go from the back door", especially if your dialogue partner is not well known to you. A couple of phrases "about nothing" will help you to have a good start.
   
   
3. Do not make long pauses. Some of them are natural but you'll definitely feel ill at ease if they're too long. Keep talking anyway; don't show the person that your vocabulary is becoming squeezed like an old apple. If you listened to what the person talked about you will always know what to say.
   
   
4. Do not interrupt. Nobody likes to be interrupted when telling something important. Do not do it even if you've got a lot to say. You have time to do it later, after the person stops. But try not to overload your partner with information. Try to tell only important things. Every dialogue has its natural rhythm, keep it, and do not be too fast or to slow in your phrases.
   
   
5. Be a partner. Try not to dominate the conversation. Use simple and clear phrases. Long sentences are usually lack sense, and they seem to be never ending. Use one sentence for one idea you want to tell. Always ask your listener's opinion involving him or her into the conversation. You should always keep in mind that the person talking to you also have the right to listen and to speak.